Those who know me and are my "friends" on facebook ("fb") know that I have really loved being on fb and reconnecting with so many friends from my past. I have pretty much accepted most friend requests and will usually write a note to my new "friend" thanking them for finding me and asking how and what they are now doing. For the most part, these friends will write back and we will reconnect (no matter how brief). There are, however, people who request to be my friend, but not a peep out of them ... EVER! I mentioned this to Brenda a few weeks ago and she likened this to seeing someone you know, recognizing their existence, closing in on them enough to get a glimpse into their lives, and not say a word to each other throughout the whole process. I agree. Yeah, I accepted your friend invitations, but I'm now changing my mind. So ... it's time for some spring cleaning on facebook!I'm thinking I need to set some rules as to who will remain on my friends list and who should be "un-friended". I am x-ing the following people:
"We were never really friends, never had a conversation or did anything together (nor will we ever do these things in the future), but your name is familiar and I think I knew you from high school / college / mission / wherever / whatever, we should be fb friends ..."
"Will you be my 5,234th friend? It's my favorite number ... for you ..."
"Look at me! I'm no longer that shy kid you knew ... here's a few choiced 4-letter words in my updates to spice up your fb experience ... oh, we can't forget the few pictures of me partying it up to show you how really cool I am now ... aren't you jealous?"
"Yeah, our friendship / relationship did end (and in some cases, badly) ... but who cares if I once lied / stole / dated / cheated you. We should still be fb friends because I'm a control freak and I need to keep a tab on you."
14 comments:
Keep me, keep me, keep me!!! Please!!! I reject people all the time, does that make me a bad person?
You are too funny!! I agree with what you said.
I heard on the news a couple months ago that Burger King was offering a free Whopper for every 10 friends you drop from Facebook. It's a good thing I don't have an account or I would be dropping real friends and family for that deal!
I was just thinking about cleaning house myself. I totally agree with you - so here I go. You're still my friend, though.
AMEN TO THIS! I can relate COMPLETELY. I've had people send me friend requests from high school who never spoke to me once while there, never once since high school, and they haven't sent me any kind of a message or return message to my "thanks for the friend request" deal. I'm ready to do some serious spring cleaning of my list, too! I laugh when I get friend requests from people who have 600 friends on their list. Are they seriously best buddies with 600 people? Or just trying to show off that they can match the names and faces of 600 people??
Glad to hear that you're all on my side ... so far. I just hope I don't come across as someone who is totally bitter.
I guess I need to prep myself to be deleted by some my fb friends. Although, I don't know why anyone would even consider x-ing such a cool friend like me.
I love your post ... I think you are doing a smart thing!
I'm proud of you!!! I have been fairly discriminating when accepting/sending friend requests but there are still a few people I'll be removing in the near future. Unfortunately most of the foul language I experience comes from family members.
I hope I'm not on your "hit list". LOL!!!
I agree with your blog, I do want to down-size to those that are truly my friends.
Great blog by the way! Very clever and true!!!
Because of your influence, I unfriended 8 people today. It felt GREAT!!! With my luck, they will try to friend me again and I will feel guilted into - again.
Can't we all just get along. Peace, love and all that crap?
How's this working for you?
I feel ... less cluttered. I think periodic un-friending is in order. I un-friended people I've had on my list for months and have not replied to my messages or acknowledged me since I accepted their friendship requests.
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